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Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John GrayMen Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray
Published by Harper Paperbacks on Apr 3, 2012 (first published 1992)
Genres: Nonfiction, Self-Help
Pages: 368
Format: eBook
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Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets.

Based on years of successful counselling of couples and individuals, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has helped millions of couples transform their relationships. Now viewed as a modern classic, this phenomenal book has helped men and women realise how different they really are and how to communicate their needs in such a way that conflict doesn't arise and intimacy is given every chance to grow.

My Review:

I believe we can learn a thing or two from the book, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. The title used to be the joke of conversations but now that I have read the book, it is actually quite a useful guide for men and women relationships as well as personal growth.

Right from the start of the book, the author, John Gray, keeps mentioning that men and women are supposed to be different. They cannot be expected to know what the other is thinking or feeling all the time unless the other one is expressing it out loud. However, simply lashing out at your other half may have its implications so the author has provided advice on handling such tricky situations.

This book should only be used as a guide and readers could read it with an open mind. Gray keeps things light-hearted and uses language that is easy to understand. It is still funny to me that he calls men ‘Martians’ and that women are ‘Venusians’. I also like that he includes personal stories, usually featuring his wife Bonnie, to help him get the message across. He also gives examples of situations that relationships tend to face down the road.

Gray likens men to be like rubber bands, meaning that they will bounce back after pulling away. On the other hand, he describes women as behaving like waves. It seems that a woman’s self-esteem and feelings rise and fall in a wave motion. She has to hit bottom before feeling better again. I wonder if this could be related to the woman’s monthly cycle.

There is a chapter where Gray promotes the writing of Love Letters. He stresses the importance of writing such letters instead of getting into a fight with a partner, spouse, family member or friend if you do not get what you want from them. You are also encouraged to write Love Letters to yourself as it heals the pain you are feeling.

It has been a really insightful read and pretty entertaining too. Gray gives sound advice for both genders on various aspects of communication, reaction and response. He claims that this book has helped millions of readers including himself.

So the next time you find yourself scratching your head and wondering how to deal with the him/her in your life, try picking up this book and enjoy the read.

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Roomies by Sara Zarr and Tara Altebrando

Roomies by Sara Zarr and Tara AltebrandoRoomies by Sara Zarr, Tara Altebrando
Published by Little Brown Books for Young Readers on Dec 24, 2013
Genres: Young Adult
Pages: 288
Format: eBook
Source: Netgalley
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three-stars
It is time to meet your new roomie.

When East Coast native Elizabeth receives her freshman-year roommate assignment, she shoots off an e-mail to coordinate the basics: television, microwave, mini-fridge. That first note to San Franciscan Lauren sparks a series of e-mails that alters the landscape of each girl's summer - and raises questions about how two girls who are so different will ever share a dorm room.

As the countdown to college begins, life at home becomes increasingly complex. With family relationships and childhood friendships strained by change, it suddenly seems that the only people Elizabeth and Lauren can rely on are the complicated new boys in their lives . . . and each other. Even though they've never met.

National Book Award finalist Sara Zarr and acclaimed author Tara Altebrando join forces for a novel about growing up, leaving home, and getting that one fateful e-mail that assigns your college roommate.

I received this book for free from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review. This does not affect my opinion of the book or the content of my review.

My review:

This is the perfect read for those who will be staying with roommates at college or university. Meeting new people is fun, exciting and there’s a good chance that you will be friends with them for a very long time. But to be sharing a dorm, room, hostel, etc for months? It is like sharing half of your uni or college life with them. Of course, it really depends on your luck and manner of approach towards your new roommate(s) before you find out if both of you can ‘live’ with each other.

In Roomies, Elizabeth or EB from New Jersey takes the first step to send an e-mail to her future roommate, Lauren from San Francisco. EB only wants to get to know Lauren better and shows much enthusiasm in her e-mail. Lauren, who had requested for a single occupant dorm room, was actually disappointed to know that she would be sharing a room with someone else.

Despite the initially cold-sounding e-mail between the two girls, they began opening up to each other about their lives, families, friends, boyfriends, etc. They soon find solace and comfort while reading the other’s e-mail as they give out their own advice and opinions as well.

The girls, however, had a meltdown due to a misunderstanding and the stress they were each facing in their muddled lives. Can they handle this difficult time? Will they be able to patch up again? Are they still going to be roommates?

Roomies is a quick and easy Young Adult read that gets you thinking back about your days in college or university (if you have already graduated). If not, it might get you excited about experiencing this unforgettable part of your study life. The chapters, which alternate between EB’s and Lauren’s points of views, contain their e-mail to each other as well.

Book Giveaway: The Eye of God by James Rollins

Book Giveaway: The Eye of God by James RollinsThe Eye of God by James Rollins
on Jan 28, 2014
Pages: 576
Format: Paperback
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The Eye of God finds Sigma Force on the hunt for a crashed U.S. military research satellite in the remote wilds of Mongolia. The last blurry image from the falling satellite displayed the eastern seaboard of the United States smoldering and in utter ruin.

At the same time, a mysterious package arrives at the Vatican containing two artifacts: a skull scrawled with ancient Aramaic and a tome bound in human skin. DNA confirms they both came from a single body— the long-dead Mongol king, Genghis Khan. It is up to Commander Gray Pierce, aided by a pair of Vatican historians, to discover a truth tied to the fall of the Roman Empire, to a mystery going back to the very roots of Christianity, and to a weapon hidden for centuries that holds the true fate of humanity.

Top 3 Reasons to Read The Eye of God

An interview with James Rollins

1. In The Eye of God, you take your readers to some exciting and exotic locales: Macau, Mongolia, North Korea. What drew you to set parts of the book in those locations?

I personally love to travel to remote corners of the world, to explore those lost edges or seldom traveled landscapes. I also love to ask locals odd questions (“Tell me something no one knows about this place.” “What is a mystery left unsolved here?”). It is from such journeys and questions that many of my stories begin. During my travels to Macau, I was struck by its strange mix of European colonialism, Chinese history, and Las-Vegas glitz. And I knew I always wanted to set a story in North Korea and interviewed several people who had firsthand accounts of the strange “ghost town”-like atmosphere of its capital city. And it was the country’s rich history that drew me to Mongolia, with its ties to Genghis Khan.

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Introducing Bookurve – A Malaysian Online Bookstore

It is that time of the year again when all you want to do is shop. However, for book lovers like me, shopping for books happens all year round unfortunately. There is no such thing as too many books. Right???

But if you are looking for something new to read or to search for that book that you could not find at your nearest bookstore or you just want to buy a book for someone this Christmas, you can do so at the newly launched Bookurve.

Bookurve is a Malaysian online bookstore that offers free delivery for the books which are sold at low prices. I have had the opportunity to conduct an e-mail interview with one of the guys behind the startup. Here is the interview with Lian Shen:

1. How did the website’s name “Bookurve” come about?

It is a combination of the words “Book” and “Curve”. 

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